To the outside world I had it all. A successful business, a wonderful husband, a loving family. What was my secret? How was I able to juggle a business and family life and stay on top of things, especially at my “stage” in life? I am going to ask another question here, “Why is it that women rarely discuss what they are going through behind closed door?
Here’s how it works:
What is actually happening behind closed doors?
Let me let you in on a secret that I have never said before, this was what was really happening in my life:
A woman often feels that she has to be the strong one, especially a career woman. Let’s face it, it is a man’s world out there and many of us feel that we have to be seen as the strong one or else we will be seen as the weaker link. I would be in meetings with men, when all of a sudden a hot flush would be upon me. When I could feel one coming on, I would get stressed even more, thus making the flush worse and a stress issue now to cope with.. Here’s the first step…
The Turning Point
There is always a turning point in stories like this, or how else would I have been able to become The Menopause Whisperer?
The turning point for me was I surrendered. For so long I would not admit that I was the problem. My husband will be the first to acknowledge that if we ever argue I will rarely admit defeat!. Well this day I did. After yet another of my “meltdowns” that only the family had to witness, I cried in front of my husband for the first time in a long time. I was begging him for forgiveness. I can still remember saying to him, “I do not know what is wrong with me. I do not like the person that I have become.” I cried and I cried, letting out every emotion that I had been holding back from everyone.
From that point on I decided to no longer be a victim to my hormones but be proactive in getting them back on track. I did my own research, experimented on myself, I knew there was a better life for me, there just had to be!
Fast forward 5 years from the eventful day and I am literally a different women.
Let me share with you my achievements, not to brag but to let you know that there is a way out. That you do have to live the life you are living due to your hormones.
When I had my meltdown I never dreamed that I would be living the life that I am now living. Never in a million years did I imagine that I would be 25kg lighter, that I would be able to maintain a business in Ireland and Australia, that I would be out of bed and have a morning run before seeing the children off to school and myself off to start the day with a renewed vigor not seen since my late teens.
What was MY Secret?
To pinpoint one secret I would have to say, it starts with your liver. Many Menopausal women (or peri-menopausal for many women) find to their dismay that they are unable to eat, drink, smoke like they used to without side effects. Many women refuse to acknowledge this fact and they are on a slippery downward slope in my opinion. Pills, be it HRT, herbs or supplements, can only do so much. Most of the time they are purely masking the symptoms. But once we address our diet and give the liver a good overhaul through diet and lifestyle changes, the rest will follow.
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